Thursday, June 19, 2014

Priorities in Life: Going back to the basics in life

When you begin your adult life, many begin at the very bottom of the ladder. Some, are a few steps lower down than others, but overtime, you work your way up the ladder to develop a successful life. Slowly but surely, you climb one step at a time to further yourself in society. With each step up, you achieve more and more. You work to achieve the goals you've set in place for yourself, reaching new milestones along the way.

As you climb, you know what your priorities are and where your final destination will be. The more you succeed and reach your goals, the more you change. Sometimes, as you climb this ladder, your priorities in life shift, not for better or for worse, but they change from where you were at when at the bottom of the ladder. Sometimes, it takes being knocked down a few steps to reevaluate just where your priorities land. It takes going back to the basics in life to provide you with a more humbling and appreciative outlook on where you've come from and just how far you've gone.

When you first start out, you have dreams of owning a car, buying a home, having food on the table, and a roof over your head. But, the more you succeed in life, the basics in life change. Now, you want a bigger home, a fancier car, to dine at great restaurants, and a nice new big screen TV. Of course, all of these things are wonderful to have and it's nice being in the position to provide your family with the finest of things. But, are they really necessary?

In simple ways, your priorities in life tend to change as you succeed. Often, this happens without even realizing it. Small but subtle priorities have a way of evolving overtime. Of course, your main priorities to provide a happy, healthy, and stable home for your family remain unchanged, but the size of that home tends to grow overtime.

Often, these small changes go unnoticed, but become very apparent when you have to take a few steps back. Going back to the basics in life has a way of opening your eyes to what's really important. Your priorities in life shift again as you realize what truly matters.

Yes, providing a home for your family is important, but when you go back to the basics, you realize it doesn't matter the size of the roof over your head, as long as it's a roof. The food in your stomach doesn't need to come from a fancy restaurant, as long as there's food in your stomach. That expensive car you worked so hard to drive, doesn't matter as long as you have a car to drive from point A to point B. The price tag means nothing in the end.

Yes, it's nice to enjoy the finer things in life as you climb the ladder of success, but they really aren't important. Sometimes, it takes going back to the basics in life to realize where you place your priorities in life.

Keeping the basics in life and a firm understanding of where you started out close to your heart at all times will help keep you grounded and your priorities in life straight. As much as you succeed, remember to stay humble for all that you have.

Tuesday, June 17, 2014

The Secret to Happiness: Letting go of perfect and facing reality

Ah, the secret to happiness-- so many search for it, yet so few actually achieve it. Many stumble their entire life looking for that one thing that will make their life perfect so they can be truly happy. If you really want to know the secret, well, part of the secret to happiness, here it is--- there is no such thing as a perfect life. There is no perfect life, but there is a life that's perfect for you.

The sooner you begin letting go of perfect or the idea of what a perfect life is supposed to be like, the sooner you'll achieve happiness. Nothing in life is ever perfect, and the longer you expect things to be perfect, the longer you will spend your life disappointed and unhappy. You need to let go of your assumption of what perfect is and begin facing reality in order to truly see the perfections in an imperfect world. Then, and only then, will you be able to unlock the secret to happiness.

So many people struggle with the idea of what their perfect life should look like. Then, when their actual life doesn't live up to the image they've created, they begin wishing they had more or seeing all of the flaws in their life. But, there is no perfect. No one has a perfect life. No one had their life turn out exactly the way they intended. The sooner you accept the fact that there's no such thing as perfect, the quicker you'll become content with the life you have. By letting go of the perfect life and accepting a life that's perfect for you, you'll be able to see the beauty and all of the good things you do have in your life, even if it didn't quite turn out the way you expected.

After you've let go of this image you've created for the life you expected to lead, you'll realize that you're truly lucky to have the life you have. Even when things look bleak and the bad seem to outweigh the good, there's always a reason to be thankful.

No, you're life may not have turned out perfect or the way you thought it should be, but there is so much good surrounding you. You have to be able to look past the imperfections in the image you created for your life to see the good. Embrace the fact that your life isn't your original idea of perfect, but it is the perfect life for you.

Like I said before, no one has a perfect life or the life they thought they'd live. NO ONE!

If you're trying to unlock the secret to happiness, the first thing you need to do is to let that image of the perfect life fade away. Begin letting go of perfect so you can begin facing reality. Trust me, you'll find that your life's actual reality is much more beautiful and meaningful than the life you had pictured.

What's the secret to your happiness? How did you learn to let go of perfect to face the reality of life for what it really is, not the image you thought it would be?