Monday, December 3, 2012

Guest Post: Teaching others can help you gain more happiness

by  Mark Victor Hansen

Have you ever thought of the effect of volunteering to teach others on the volunteer himself? What do you gain by putting in a few hours of voluntary work each week?

To answer those questions, I need to begin with a personal story. This isn’t something that I’ve shared before. When I was young, I had no clue that I had a reading disability. I was from an immigrant family which, as far as speaking, reading or writing in English was concerned, was mostly illiterate. My family spoke almost exclusively in Danish. Some broken English here and there was part of our house, but I think that was more of a necessity since we were in the U.S. Since my parents didn’t speak English, they would shy away from meeting my teachers and attending PTAs. They were afraid that somebody would make fun of their lack of English knowledge I suppose. I’ve never really seen such a thing happen so maybe it was just low self confidence on their part. As far as I know, no one would really have called them ‘Dumb Danes’ because they were not as educated as others. But so it was. My kindergarten teacher realized that I had a reading disability and put me into remedial reading. I adored my teacher and took up her advice.

The lady who had the responsibility to tutor me was just as amazing. She was sweet, considerate and incredibly patient as she went over my reading with me as many times as I required. I’m aware of what it’s like to not know how to converse in English. Maybe that’s the reason I believe that English is a necessity today, not a luxury. My Alma Mater, the Southern Illinois University, is one of the world’s leading universities for English as a Second Language. They teach kids how to read English in China and Vietnam. I think that’s great because we’re crossing international boundaries and maybe we’ll be able to teach a million international kids how to read and write English.

From my experience, I can say that it’s really the learning process that matters. When your parents taught you to read and write and you passed on the knowledge to your kids, wouldn’t it be great if your kids took up some responsibility to return the favor? They could do something like teach your parents to use computers. My point is that all of us should volunteer to teach someone something. Whether we volunteer at a church or school, the fact is that you’ll be helping someone better their lives. You don’t just have to teach them to read, you can teach them to love reading so that they become independent and self confident. How does this help you? You get to live a little more and a little part of you will light up when you find yourself responsible for helping someone lead a better life.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

No One Is Perfect

Despite what we tell ourselves, we are not perfect. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes in life, some larger than others. We all have flaws and moments from our past and present that we aren't proud of. Our mistakes in life don't have to define our character. What defines our character is what we choose to do with the mistakes we've made. We have the choice to ignore and deny our mistakes, to pass the blame onto others. Or, we can choose to accept the mistakes we've made in life, to admit we've made them and take responsibility for our actions. We can choose to take those moments in life we aren't proud of and turn them into life lessons. By taking responsibility for our mistakes in life and choosing to learn from them to ensure we don't repeat our mistakes in the future impacts our character.

Your character is very important. It's not how you view yourself but how others view you. It's who you truly are on the inside-- good or bad. If your character is important to you, choose to learn from your mistakes and don't deny you've made them, because no one is perfect. You can't grow as an individual without learning from your past.

Do not judge others by the mistakes they have made if you can't admit to your mistakes because that's proof enough that you aren't perfect either.

Friday, June 29, 2012

A Moment to Ponder: Les Brown

Here's today's moment to ponder:

Life takes on meaning when you become motivated, set goals and charge after them in an unstoppable manner.  Les Brown

Life becomes far more enjoyable when you are inspired. If your life is dull, set some goals for yourself with interests that inspire you, and then don't stop until you succeed.

What does this quote mean to you?

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

A Moment to Ponder: What Life Brings Us

Here's today's moment to ponder:

Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us, but by the attitude we bring to life. A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events, and outcomes. It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results. -- Anonymous

You are in control of your life in more ways than one. You can't help what happens in life, but you can control how you react to life.  The attitude you maintain will produce rippled results throughout life. If you have a negative attitude, more bad will happen; whereas, if you maintain a positive attitude, the more good will happen.

What does this quote mean to you?

Monday, June 25, 2012

A Moment to Ponder: Who Holds the Future?

Here's today's moment to ponder:

I know not what the future holds, but I know who holds the future. ~Author Unknown

We are in control of our own future. No one can create our future for us. Only we can design and create what the future has in store for us with hard work and determination.

What does this quote mean to you?