Tuesday, April 15, 2014

The Power of Trust and Lies

Trust is a powerful force. When there is trust in a relationship, a connect can be made that is so strong you are willing to place your life in the hands of another. However, if there is no trust, it can change your entire outlook on situations--past, present, and future. The power of trust can make or break a relationship, no matter if it's a relationship with a spouse, family member, child, friend, or anyone else in your life.

Many view trust differently and come to trust people differently. Some trust from the very first minute, while other trust no one until given a reason. Whether you trust completely or wait for a reason, when trust is gone, it's gone and it's very difficult to get back.

Often, the largest reason people lose trust for another is due to lies that have been told. When this happens, there are many times that trust can be reestablished as long as the lying stops and positive steps are made towards the future. However, when lies continue to accumulate, the ability to trust again slips further and further away.

Many times, the one who is guilty of the lying tries to rebuild the relationship by appearing to be a different person and making an effort to be better than before. However, if the person truly hasn't changed, they have to display a persona to make it appear as though this new changed life or outlook is actually their reality.

Unfortunately, this is still lying and in no way helps establish trust. It doesn't matter if they are little white lies, moments of deception, full blown outright lies, or leaving out necessary details. Often, the guilty party feels successful with the lies they have told, but they are transparent and aren't fooling anyone. This makes it nearly impossible to ever rebuild trust.

If you're worried about hurting someone again after trust has been lost, stick with the truth no matter what. Even if your honesty may be hard to hear or unflattering, it's more respectable than lying to cover things up.

Once trust is gone, it's gone.

It's must easier to lose trust than it is to regain it. Don't put yourself in a position to be considered untrustworthy.

Should you find yourself on the receiving end of lies that have fractured your trust, be open and accepting, but be wary not to be hurt again.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Top Random Thoughts Over the Years

I thought it might be fun to take a look back at the top random thoughts over the years.

Corruption Lies Within Yourself
You can't force change onto people, but you do have options. You can either decide to drown in the fumes of their toxicity, or you can accept the individual for who they are and remain hopeful they may one day return to the goodness you once knew.
 
How Do You Measure Success?
 I live my life the way I want to and raise my children the best I can. I believe in treating others the way you want to be treated, and so my children are taught the same. I believe you're always able to help others in one way or another, and I strive to give back as often as I can. I believe you should leave positive footsteps behind you in life as you move forward, and I try to accomplish this each and every day. In my eyes, I'm very successful and proud of what I have accomplished so far in my life.
 
Is Blood Really Thicker than Water?
Sometimes you need to sit back and reevaluate who you allow to be part of your life for your own health and happiness. Some people in your life may be what they call "toxic relationships" and those relationships are not healthy for you or those around you. Toxic relationships are those that are filled with unneeded stress, disrespect, and an overall lack of consideration for others. These relationships can actually harm your health and can alter your happiness levels in life due to the stress that comes along with them.
 
Pieces of Yourself
Life throws us curve balls, which often cause us to want things we never wanted or to end up in positions we never expected ourselves to be in. While it is very shocking sometimes to sit back and look at how far we have deviated from our once set paths or change who we once were, it really isn't that bad. It is just a part of life.
 
Paying for your Mistakes
Let's face, not every pregnancy is perfect, and not every birth is perfect. There are many things that can go wrong, which are often unpredictable. As a result, the baby you thought was going to be the happy, healthy bundle of joy you were expecting is born with some difficulties. Although, many times this happens without any cause, it's just something that happens, other times these complications are somewhat expected when a mother makes poor choices while they are carrying a child.